Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Childhood Memories - Hers and Mine


Welcome to the December 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Childhood Memories

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have talked about memories of growing up — their own or the ones they’re helping their children create. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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When I was a kid, I went to camp. A lot. I attended YMCA Summer Camp and Girl Scout Summer Camp and Catholic Youth Camp... Some Summers I attended multiple sessions. I loved Summer camp! One year I had to pack a trunk for camp because I did 3 sessions, back-to-back, at 3 different camps, followed by the 1 month of visitation at my dad's. I loved the horse riding lessons, the swimming, the friends. I just could not think of anything bad about camp!


A couple of my counselors at Girl Scout Camp, circa... 1980-something

I was so excited for my daughter when she got involved in Girl Scouts. Camp was a wonderful experience I wanted for her. The first year she was old enough to attend Summer Camp was a "She & Me" event where we got to go to camp for one night together! She attended Summer camp for a few years and even wanted to be a Camp Counselor. But when it came right down to it, she just doesn't like camp.

Regardless of how much fun she had, there were always tales of how miserable she was or how mean everyone had been to her or something else she hated. She had some good times, but they haven't outweighed the bad enough for her to continue to camp.


Tyler, posing for a photo with her "Curtains Up" group.
Even with themed camps, she just didn't have enough fun.

It makes me sad that she hasn't had and won't have the same love for camp that I had. Shoot, one of my favorite things was learning to care for and ride the horses, but she was terrified of them.

It can be hard to accept that our childhood is ours and their childhood is theirs. There are other things that make her crazy happy that I didn't have back then. I'm glad she has that, even if it isn't from the same activities I had. Makes me pause to think... what will Sasha love?

Do you ever find yourself trying to relive your youth in your own kids? What shared experience hasn't gone as well as planned?


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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Childhood Memories of Peace, Support, Joy, and Love — Amber at Heart Wanderings wants to make sure the majority of the memories that her children have as a part of their family are ones that are positive and help support the amazing people that they are now and will become as adults.
  • Hand Made Baby Books — Destany at They Are All of Me talks about why baby books are important to her for preserving memories of her childrens first years, and shows how she made one by hand for each child.
  • Can your childhood memories help you keep your cool?Here's To A Boring Year uses memories of being a child to keep her on the path to peaceful parenting.
  • Inter-Generational Memories {Carnival of Natural Parenting} — Meegs at A New Day talks about her own childhood memories, and what she hopes her daughter will remember in the future.
  • Snapshots — ANonyMous at Radical Ramblings reflects on the ways our childhood memories appear to us, and hopes her own daughter's childhood will be one she remembers as being happy and fulfilled.
  • What makes the perfect parent? — In a guest post on Natural Parents Network, Mrs Green from Little Green Blog reflects on camp follow and camp no-follow...
  • In My Own Handwriting — Laura from Pug in the Kitchen talks about her journals and the hope that they will be able to keep her stories alive even if she isn't able to.
  • Candlelight, fairylight, firelight — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud re-discovers the ingredients for bringing magic to life, especially at Christmas.
  • Making Memories (or) How We Celebrate Christmas — Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis talks about creating new memories at Christmas, and the joy their adventures bring to her whole family.
  • The Importance of Recording Feelings and Emotions and Not Just the Experience — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares why she puts pen to paper every day to record more than just her experiences as a mother and her daughter's experiences as a child. Jennifer looks at the importance of capturing feelings and emotions that accompany the experience.
  • Dredged up — Kenna at Million Tiny Things has been forced to recount childhood memories at bedtime, due to the failure of her middle-aged imagination. She resists, of course.
  • Crafting Memories — Handmade is what makes the holidays special for Christy at Eco Journey In the Burbs, and she wants to create the same connection with her daughters that she remembers with her mother and grandmother.
  • My Childhood Memories; beacons of light in the darkness Stone Age Parent shares the impact of her childhood memories on her life as a parent today, listing some of her many rich childhood memories and how they now act as beacons of light helping her in the complex, often confusing world of child-rearing.
  • 10 Ways I Preserve Memories for My Children — From video interviews to time capsules, Dionna at Code Name: Mama wants to make sure her children have many different ways to cherish their childhood memories. Dionna's carnival post features ten of the ways she preserves memories; check out her Pinterest board for more ideas.
  • Memories of my mother — Luschka at Diary of a First Child remembers her mother and the fondest moments of her childhood, especially poignant as she sits by her mother's sickbed writing.
  • Creating Happy Childhood Memories through Family Traditions — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells why family traditions are so important to her and her family and shares how she’s worked to create traditions for her children.
  • Traditional Christmas Tree — Jaye Anne at Wide Awake, Half Asleep remembers the great times spent with her family driving for the Christmas Tree and the lessons learned.
  • Wet Socks and Presents — Kat at MomeeeZen writes about her favorite Christmas childhood memory and why it's so special. And she hopes one day her kids will also have a feel-good memory of their own to look back on.
  • Stuff does not equal memories — Lauren at Hobo Mama learns that letting go does not mean failing to remember.
  • A Child's Loss- Will They Remember Dad? — Erica at ChildOrganics writes about their family's loss of their husband and father. She trys to find answers to the question: Will they remember their Dad?
  • Childhood Memories - Hers and Mine — Jorje of Momma Jorje wished for her daughter the same passions and experiences she loved as a child, but learns the hard way to accept whatever passions strike in her child.
  • Holiday Non-TraditionsErika Gebhardt enjoys her family's tradition of not having traditions for the holidays.

7 comments:

  1. What a great point! I sometime assume the same thing. That my daughter will like the same things I did as a kid. So far, she does but she is only two! I suppose I have a lot to wait and see what Isabella likes.

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  2. Mine aren't quite old enough yet for me to relive some of my memories through them, but I can understand the temptation! And I am with you - I *loved* camp (although mine was church camp).

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  3. Interesting post Jorje. Even before I became a Mama, I was so cognizant of not living my dreams through my kids because I saw it a lot in my friends and cousins and I've been able to kind of keep that in check so far. But i do see myself wishing on the inside that my oldest loved dance classes and performing. Alas, it's not her style!

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  4. Yep, I hear that. I don't even have an older child yet, and I'm already having to back off and let my kids have their own interests. Sigh. ;) I'm sure I'll keep encouraging an introduction of the things I love, periodically, just to see if their interests have changed in the meanwhile, but, yeah, ultimately they get to decide.

    Your reminiscences of camp are interesting — I liked camp, but almost entirely for the horses! I was so homesick being away from my parents, even for a week.

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  5. Exactly. It's so hard for me when I love something that my kids don't like, BUT XYZ IS FABULOUS! But they're having their own experiences. Being a parent is tough. Erika @ erikagebhardt.com

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  6. I find myself often saying " OH! You'll love this, I did when I was your age." Except she clearly doesn't love cabbage patch dolls like I did, but E.T. was a hit with both of my kids. *whew*

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  7. Hmmm, that is a very interesting question! The fact that I was such a loner and my boys are very social, plus the gender difference (I was very girly and they're very not) I don't really feel like there is much base for comparison or sharing. Our childhoods are just so vastly different, but in very good ways.

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