Friday, January 20, 2012

Adoption & Breastfeeding

Please welcome Melissa from White Noise as my guest writer today. Read to the bottom for her bio. Today I share with you Melissa's experience with adopting and attempts to relactate to initiate an adoptive breastfeeding relationship.

We have four kids. Three grew in my belly, and one in my heart. This topic is a very difficult one for my three year old to wrap his mind around; he keeps asking, "Who is my tummy mommy? Is she the same as Matthew's tummy mommy?"

When our oldest son was two and a half, we traveled around the world to Thailand to adopt his little brother. Ayden was very excited to meet "Baby Mafew" and to have a playmate and fellow mischief maker around 24/7. Matthew was a serious, intense fifteen month old powerhouse who motored around on four points like a spider. So cute!

Spider CrawlSpider Crawl

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Nursing through Pregnancy - final weeks (39th week)

I really got spoiled by having a few nights that took only half an hour or less to get Sasha into bed. Some nights were as short as 15 minutes! So I started the first night of this week (Giftmas Eve) by once again waiting for her to ask first... but still nursing for nearly a full hour before I was able to get her into bed!

If you're curious about the safety of nursing through pregnancy (and tandem nursing an older child along with your baby), check out the Nursing Two FAQs on KellyMom.com. These FAQs cover health issues, nutrition, the milk itself, discomforts and concerns of pregnant nursing mothers, tandem nursing and more!

So back to that first night of the week... Sasha slept nearly 5 hours before Daddy woke on Giftmas morning. (That makes it nearly 5 a.m. for those of you keeping track.) She was holding herself and moving around a lot. Once she opened her eyes, Daddy went ahead to take her to the potty.

Then she got into bed with me and nursed to sleep, but woke right up... twice before I got up to nurse her in my lap... As she nursed and nursed, I felt more and more awake. My agitation just got worse and worse. And on the flippin' holiday. Isn't visiting family stressful enough without adding lack of sleep to the mix?!

After enough fidgeting and asking her twice whether she wanted to get up, she finally nods and gets out of my lap. I am ticked off and relieved all at the same time. I wanted her to go back to sleep, but I also wanted her to stop nursing, especially if she wasn't going to go back to sleep anyway! I've mentioned how much I hate wasted nursing at this point. Nursing with no sleep feels pointless and just irritates me to no end!

It was nearly 6 o'clock by the time she got out of my lap. She faked a yawn and laid down on her bed. I am sick to my stomach already, but haven't had any meltdowns just yet. Before long, she'd convinced Daddy to turn off his game and put some awful kid show on the television. Then no one was happy but Sasha. It looked like he was going to join me in my frustration, in an effort to save me from my own. Then he cuddled up with her on her bed.

Honestly, just having him up with me, helps boost my sanity. It just isn't often that he can be up with me. Actually, on a work night... he'd already be at work! We got up and around and I cooked breakfast. Sasha was finally ready to nurse back down to sleep at 8 o'clock. We slept for nearly 3 hours before getting up for the day. So much for early morning stocking opening. I'm so glad we only had one holiday visit on the schedule!

Note: I started this post on Giftmas Day, the first day of my 39th week. However, I went into labor very late that evening, before Sasha was even ready for bed! Interestingly, I did manage to nurse her down to sleep while in labor at the hospital! More on THAT later!

Find the other posts in this series:
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - final weeks (39th week)
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - final weeks (38th week)
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - final weeks (36-37, so far)
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - 35 weeks
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - 29/30 weeks
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - 25 weeks
  • Nursing through Pregnancy - 20 weeks
  • Extended Breastfeeding, So Far! (posted pretty much the weekend I got pregnant!)
  • Wednesday, January 18, 2012

    Mamatography - Week 2

    This is my second Mamatography post of the year! I'm already making some minor changes to how I write it up, now that I've seen some other Mamatography posts. I hope you are enjoying my take on the project. Please feel free to hop on board any time!

    Day 8

    (01/08/12)

    Cosleeping MommaI seriously love it when Elmo takes these shots!
    How else are you going to capture the moment?

    Monday, January 16, 2012

    Monday Minimalist: Baby Registries - Baby Gear

    Welcome back to the fourth installment of my Monday Minimalist series about registering for your Baby Shower gifts. Last week I went over Safety needs. Today we'll go over "Baby Gear," but doesn't that cover everything? According to the "Must Have" list I'm using for reference, this category includes several subcategories:

    Car Seats

    Unless you're a committed pedestrian / non-driver, this is (of course) an absolute MUST HAVE. In fact, hospitals here in the US won't let you take your baby home at all without one. This category is split into infant car seats, convertible car seats, and booster car seats. You do not need all of these right now!

    Sasha in a convertible car seatSasha in a convertible car seat... in a closet!
    We used to have 2 vehicles. We have since given this extra car seat away.

    Sunday, January 15, 2012

    Sunday Surf: Daddies, Milk Production, and Sleep

    It has been a wonderful week of finding our groove as a family of 4. (Ronni isn't home from his vacation just yet.) Here are the links I've saved to share with you this week.

    50 Rules for Dads of Daughters

    A friend shared this via Facebook this week. I've seen it before. I might have even included it on a Sunday Surf before. But it really is a good one. A worthy reminder...

    Sasha & DaddySasha & Daddy
    December 2011

    Maximizing Milk Production with Hands On Pumping

    I had to start pumping in the hospital right after Spencer was born. A friend shared this link with me. Thankfully, my supply has been more than adequate. It helps that Sasha is nursing, too. If you're pumping, come check out these pointers for getting the most for your pumping buck, as it were.

    Sleeping SashaSleeping Sasha
    September 2011

    The division of responsibility in sleeping

    This is not the article I thought it was, based on the title. I thought it had to do with a mother / father balance when it comes to putting little ones to bed / sleep. I tend to skip such articles because our schedules don't allow for Daddy to put the kids to bed. (He works at roughly 4am.) Then someone linked me to it.

    This post could not BE more timely for me! I had basically started to come to the same revelation! I've been making some pretty big changes to how I handle Sasha's bed time and they line up well with what Hobo Mama says here. AND - they're working!

    Sunday Surf with Authentic Parenting and Hobo MamaI'm joining Authentic Parenting and Hobo Mama for Sunday Surf. Share your best reading of the week, and link up your post at either blog!

    For more great reading, visit Hobo Mama or Authentic Parenting for the latest Sunday Surf and linky.

    Happy Surfing!

    Friday, January 13, 2012

    Vasectomy

    In an effort to get some posts together for my upcoming babymoon, I've written some stuff in advance. This was going to be a themed Sunday Surf (see my Resources page for more), but it didn't turn out looking like one. My husband is scheduled for a vasectomy on Friday, December 16th, so this topic has been on our minds. (Article / Link List written on December 11th.)

    My friend Tim, day after his vasectomy ~ by TheSimple1They really do recommend a bag of frozen peas. We already bought one for the occasion. Click for photo credit.

    Now, just a little back story... After having Sasha, we were pretty certain we didn't want any more kids. Or, at least I thought we were. I arranged to get Essure®, which I think is a really awesome option! I was breastfeeding, though, and they wanted to give me a bunch of drugs for the procedure. I opted for an IUD instead. (I'm thinking I need to maybe write posts about those options, too!)

    That was December 2009, when Sasha was just a couple months old. Elmo mentioned a couple of times that he'd like to try one more time for a son. I started telling him that once I turned 40, I was DONE. Needless to say, we're pregnant now (by choice... and with a son even!), so we obviously reversed our decision. We're more steadfast in our choice now. We don't want to get any further outnumbered by our children. Economic times are hard. And I'm just getting too darned old for this reproducing business! It is getting to be very hard on my body.

    And so, to avoid the drugs for procedures for me again, my husband willingly agreed (even suggested) to get a vasectomy... permanent birth control. We both look forward to a stress-free sex life. No more pregnancy scares! That said, and in case you're interested in vasectomy but want to know more, I've collected some resources for you.

    Vasectomy Brochure, Page 1 ~ by kristykay22Vasectomy Brochure, Page 1
    circa 1980s

    My Vasectomy.com

    I'd like to recommend this site first. It is done by a regular guy. His wife took photos of his procedure and he put the site together with them and his own comments. While there is plenty to be said for medical sites and study results, I have an appreciation for getting some of my info from everyday-people with first hand experience.

    Also, each page has a squeamish rating offered in advance so you can choose to proceed or not based on your personal limits. I thought that was very generous of the author! He has even written an update since several years have passed since his vasectomy.

    Wikipedia: Vasectomy

    Say what you will, I love Wiki! This article sheds some light on the many different options available for vasectomies. We're getting his done through Planned Parenthood, though, and I just don't think most of the options are available to us. I think they pretty much do assembly line vasectomies.

    The article does share some scary information on Post-vasectomy pain syndrome (PVPS). I may need to contact PP and ask them for more details on their procedure (there are ways to help avoid PVPS), but I need to not do it while my husband is in the room. He is nervous enough about the procedure.

    Vasectomy.com

    This site offers information on vasectomy as well as vasectomy reversal. You can also find doctors in your area for both using this site. This site claims to provide up-to-date trends in the world of vasectomies.

    I do note, however, that they say things like "A vasectomy only blocks sperm and does not affect your sexual drive..." because other sites say that some men do experience a lower sex drive. The site does not deny that there are risks, but the information doesn't jive with the Wiki article... I don't know which source might be more reputable.

    Personally, I have to wonder how much of the loss of sex drive has to do with men's ego with regards to their manliness being based in their testicles.

    I also got the impression that the site was slamming Essure®... so perhaps this site is all about the financial gain behind vasectomies.

    WebMD

    This article was last revised in May 2010. I don't know that there have been many advances in the science of vasectomies since then, but it does seem like it should be revisited perhaps more recently than that.

    That said, this page offers a lot of the same information as the other pages, but also offers more detail on some of it. And they somehow manage to do it with less words overall. This page looks like a nice, quick read!

    eMedicineHealth

    If you're looking for some light reading on the topic, this is not the site for you! If you want details, then perhaps it is. This article is 10 pages long! I like the say this site breaks their articles down into each section. For instance, you start with an introduction to vasectomy. The next page is specifically on the risks. So, if you have a particular interest or concern, you can skip directly to the section that suits your needs.

    Vasectomy.md

    eMedicineHealth actually refers to this site for more complete information! How often do you see that on a medical site?? However, this site is for one particular urologist, so it looks like one big ad. It tells you what they offer, but does have section on risks and alternatives as well.

    That's nuts! Dr. Phil helped with own vasectomy

    Had you seen this story? I really don't find it all that shocking. I'm more shocked that it was so quick and easy for him to get the procedure when he was only 29 years old. I say that, but my own husband is 29. Dr. Phil only had one (new) child at the time, though. Elmo has 2 daughters, 1 stepdaughter, 1 son on the way, and is married to a 38 year old woman who has birthed 3 babies so far. Even we had to wait 6 weeks to make sure that we were sure. We really wanted to have the procedure done sooner and have been planning to do it throughout this pregnancy. That's what procrastination will get ya. We have to wait 3 months for testing to verify that the surgery is a success.

    Day 64: The Sample Cup ~ by PunkJRDay 64: The Sample Cup ~ by PunkJR

    Oh, also, I spoke with a young female doctor once who said that her doctor father and 2 of his doctor buddies got drunk one night and vasectomized (yeah, not a word, shut up) each other. Obviously the procedure is not rocket science.



    That really seems to be the extent of what is out there. There are probably some smaller articles, but as far as the real "meat and potatoes" of it (no pun intended... heh) - that is the list. In case you're debating birth control methods, I think I may soon write posts on those other options I've tried. I've even tried Depo-Provera®.

    Remember that I am not a doctor! I am merely sharing with you the information I've found available on the internet from my own research.

    Has anyone close to you had a vasectomy? Were there any complications or do they recommend it? Any funny vasectomy stories?

    Thursday, January 12, 2012

    Mamatography - Week 1!

    This is to be my first Mamatography post of the year! I may change the layout along the way, please bare with me. I plan to use my Mamatography project as my Wordless Wordful Wednesday format for the year, but wrote yesterday's post a month in advance! I hope you enjoy the project, please feel free to hop on board any time!

    My Mamatography posts won't always be this long, but this was an eventful week!

    January 1

    Happy New Year in the NICUI rang in the New Year with my new Little Man,
    trying to keep him warm.

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